“I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung
"Singing Your Heartsong" is a powerful way of developing greater self-esteem and confidence. If you think you "can't sing your song" either actually or metaphorically, something probably happened along the way, that made you question your own significance, value and worth. Researchers are beginning to discover that singing is like an infusion of the perfect tranquilizer, the kind that soothes your nerves and elevates your spirits.
Reclaiming your ability to sing can generalize to every area of your life. You are as unique as your fingerprint. When you learn to feel comfortable with your own voice, you re-establish your own sense of worthiness, learning to accept yourself at a much deeper level. One of the most amazing things you'll discover is that, as you become less concerned with outside judgment and rejection, that unmistakeable confidence is communicated to others, leading to improvements in your work, your relationships, and in your overall quality of life.
I use a variety of powerful approaches that work directly with your unconscious mind, helping you to interact with greater confidence, relaxation and ease. I bring together years of experience with Emotional Freedom Techniques, (EFT/Tapping), Matrix Reimprinting, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Inner Voice Dialogue together with a variety of Expressive Art Techniques, that help access and then transform your unconscious, negative, limiting beliefs. Part of my dedication, is teaching you tools that you will have the rest of your life, to help you have greater resiliency, so that you can deal more skillfully with any life challenges that may arise.
My clients report a new grace and joy in their lives, as they stop being attacked by "comparison mind" and instead start enjoying themselves, just as they are, accepting both their gifts and their flaws. How Exciting!
Now some people fear that if they stop criticizing themselves, that they will lose their motivation, but the opposite is actually true. According to Dr. Brene Brown, internationally acclaimed researcher into shame, found that shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying. Researchers don’t find shame correlated with positive outcomes at all! Shame is much more likely to be the cause of destructive and hurtful behaviors than it is to be the solution.
So how can we actually transform these negative voices, and actually motivate ourselves?
In your "Singing Your Heartsong Journey" you will learn to: -Raise Your Low Self-Esteem -Tame Your Hostile Inner Critic & Transform Your Limiting Beliefs
For example, do you find yourself sometimes thinking: "I'm Not Worthy," "I Can Never Succeed in this World," "I Have To Be Perfect To Be Loved," or other negative beliefs? These negative, corrosive thoughts can create havoc in your life, stopping you from applying for a new job, preventing you from inviting someone out, and also flooding you with feelings of anxiety, depression and overwhelm. These negative thoughts can also dpush you to addictive behaviors, as you attempt to numb all these terrible negative voices that are yelling at you almost constantly inside your head.
Dr. Bruce Lipton reports that we have something like 60,000 thoughts a day, the vast majority of which, unchallenged, are repetitive, negative, disempowering and limiting. The good news is, this approach helps you address these negative, unconscious beliefs and transform them into new beliefs that are actually supportive, life enhancing and affirming. From a place of authentic self-confidence you are much more able to manifest your dreams.
Dr. Brene Brown, also found in her research that 70% of people suffering from shame had traumatic experiences in school, where they were put down or made to feel inadequate. These unresolved negative experiences are still negatively impacting these people, 20 or even more years later. What is especially important to note, is that 50% of these people experienced trauma around their creativity. In a way, that makes sense. Your creativity is what is most vulnerable and authentic to you, it is your unique expression. If what you create is criticized, humiliated, or marginalized, some essential part of your self-expression gets shut down... it feels like it's just not safe to really be you.
Now you may be saying to yourself, "Oh come on! No one held a gun to my head. My house didn't burn to the ground, how can you talk about creative expression trauma?
Well this is where it gets interesting! It turns out that trauma researchers have determined that there are what they name big "T" traumas and small "t" traumas. Let me give you an example...Big "T" traumas are like the examples expressed above, where an event was actually life threatening. HOWEVER...what researchers have found, is that it's not the life threatening nature of the event that matters, but rather the perceived experience of that event.
Let me give you an example...Say you are in a play in 5th grade and you have a crucial line in that play. Your parents are there, the room is full of other parents and classmates, all eyes are on you. You go to speak, yet to your great dismay, you can't remember your line!
People use phrases like: "I could have died!" "I wished a hole could have opened up and I could have disappeared," or "I was absolutely mortified." You see its not the actual life threatening intensity that determines whether something turns traumatic, and develops a protective, limiting core belief, it's the perceived humiliation and threat to your sense of worth and identity. Yes, it may be an over-reaction, but your unconscious doesn't know that. It just wants to keep you safe, even if that means not taking risks. And so you "Inner Critic" gets involved, trying to protect you from failure, but actually tying you up in k"nots."
Learning to sing as a transformative practice, learning to feel comfortable with your unique voice, is one of the fastest ways to learn to transform your sense of self-worth and value. As you go to sing, it stirs upall these negative core beliefs, that are normally unconscious, running you subliminally. Once these negative beliefs are brought up to consciousness, the original traumas can be addressed and healed, and your negative beliefs are available to be transformed. In a process entitled "Memory Reconsolidation" we help previous memories to be recalled to consciousness, and then actively reconsolidated. This distinct process serves to modify memories that were previously stored unconsciously in your long-term memory.
You can participate in traditional talk therapy, but you probably need more. Unless you are accessing the unconscious core beliefs, addressing your traumatic experiences, and the unconscious fears and avoidances that arose from those experiences, that are driving your negative and avoidant behaviors, you may be limited in the progress you can make. My "Singing Your Heartsong" process addresses your unconscious beliefs, rather than just supporting your conscious understandings, thus leading to profound and lasting transformations. "Singing Your Heartsong" gets to the heart of the matter, in beautiful, effective and joyful ways.
I love liberating people, helping them overcome their fears and unconscious limiting beliefs, so that they can thrive in their lives. Why not learn to celebrate your life, rather than being caught in the terrible grip of anxiety, depression, addiction and overwhelm?
Please contact me to get more information and learn how you can truly "Sing Your Heart Song." I also am also available to teach "Sing Your Heartsong" Workshops by invitation around the world, helping participants to gain a new sense of confidence and freedom, in a process that is both playful and transformative!
Dr. Suzanne Lerner Psychologist, Hypnotherapist Advanced IFS & EFT Practitioner PSY# 11485 Working Locally in Santa Cruz & Monterey & Around the World by Phone, ZOOM & Skype firstname.lastname@example.org 415-275-4607